Hyrum Smith, CEO of Franklin Covey, talks about his “Franklin Reality Model” in the book “The 10 natural laws of successful time and life management.” Look at your beliefs to determine: 1 ) are they are based on truth? and 2) do the results of choices based on those beliefs work for you? Beliefs are learned and may have been formed in situations that were something less than perfect. If they are not working for you, they can be changed. Sometimes we internalize negative messages. For example, Instead of learning great communication, we may have gotten the message that it’s not ok to talk about certain things. We can choose new positive beliefs like “I can talk about things that are important to me.”
In The Franklin Reality Model, our belief window is a filter as we take actions (behavior) as we attempt to meet our perceived needs. Examine beliefs, actions and long term results to determine if needs are met.
In this example, the current need is the addiction of smoking, which is driven by the belief that “smoking may hurt others, but not me.” The short term result is the positive pleasure from nicotine. The long term result is the negative effect on health. An alternative belief is based in reality: “smoking is too big a health risk to take.” Quitting smoking is difficult in the short term, but leads to a longer and healthier life in the long term. Read more about the Franklin Reality Model at Franklin Covey Synthesis.
Positive affirmations are first person present tense descriptions. Pay attention to what you say when you talk to yourself and choose positive self-talk rather than saying critical and negative things.
- Be impeccable with your word.
- Don’t take anything personally.
- Don’t make assumptions.
- Always do your best.
Beliefs and our emotions
Make a list of your beliefs about yourself, others, and life. For each one, ask if it works for you. If it doesn’t, re-write it.