Pathway to People

Connection to others is essential for meaning and happiness. Yet the skills for building relationships are not often taught. Learn from books and TED talks by speakers who are also authors. Amazon affiliate links provide a small commission that helps to support the Daily PlanIt. Find links to the TED talks at the Relate Pathway Pinterest board and other pathways listed below.

Several books and TED talks talk about the importance of connection:

• Super Psyched by Adam Dorsay, TED talk Connection is everything
• The Good Life by Robert Waldinger, TED talk What makes a good life?
• The Village Effect by Susan Pinker, TED talk The Secret to living longer may be your social life
• How to Know a Person by David Brooks, TED talk The Social animal
• A Little More Social by Nicholas Epley, TED talk The Simple habit for a happier social life

Skills for connection:

• Communicate well. Especially excel at listening. Pathway to Communication.
• Attention and awareness. Alone Together by Sherry Turkle, TED talk Connected, but alone
• Reach out and share. Connectable by Steven Van Cohen, TED Hacking human connection
• Expand Emotional Intelligence. Emotional Intelligence TED talks

A life FILLED with:

• Friendship: Friendship by Lydia Denworth, TED talk The Science of friendship [see more at Cultivating Relationships]
• Fun: The Power of Fun by Catherine Price, TED talk Why having fun is the secret to a healthier life
• Intimacy: Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel, TED talk The secret to desire in a long term relationship
• Invitations: We Should Get Together by Kat Velos, TED talk The Transformative power of a single invitation
• Love: Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, TED talk The Science of love
• Laughter: Friends by Robin Dunbar, TED talk Laughter, love, and social cohesion
• Empathy: The Empathy Effect by Helen Reiss and Liz Neporent, TED talk The power of empathy
• Discovery: Wired For Love by Stan Tatkin, TED talk Why love alone can’t save your relationship

To learn some of the complexities of connecting with others, PREINVEST and make people a priority.

• Parenting: How to Raise an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims, TED talk How to raise successful kids – without overparenting
• Realistic expectations: It Begins With You by Jill Turecki, TED talk How to have a healthy realtionship
• Embrace romance: The Thinking Girl’s Guide to the Right Guy by Joanne Davila, TED talk Skills for healthy romantic relationships. The All-or-Nothing Marriage by Eli Finkel, TED talk The Secret to lasting love
• Infidelity: Why We Love by Helen Fisher, TED talk Why we love, why we cheat
• Needs: Love by Design by Sara Nasserzadeh, TED talk 6 essential ingredients of loving relationships
• Vulnerability: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, TED talk The power of vulnerability
• Elevate: Starved Stuff by Matt Townsend, TED talk Creating real connection
• Siblings: The Sibling Effect by Jeff Kluger, TED talk The Sibling Bond
• Tips on the Social brain:
  • The Social Paradox by Bill Von Hippel, TED talk Neuroscience of social intelligence
  • Social by Matthew Lieberman, TED talk The social brain and it’s superpowers
  • The Neuroscience of Emotion by Ralph Adolphs, TED talk The social brain

BE
• Respectful and responsive
• Emotionally aware
• Sincere
• Pleasant and personable
• Empathetic
• Confidently caring
• Trustworthy and reliable
• Friendly and likeable: TED talk The real art of becoming likeable by Arel Moodie
• Upbeat and open
• Loving, warm, and welcoming

We can shape and influence relationships with communication skills and agency.

Learn more at Don’t Wait, Relate and find more books by TED speakers at the TED talk book discussion.

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