Express Emotions with I Statements

Emotional – Activity: Express Emotions with I Statements

Just as we have choices about how to interpret an event, we also have options about how to express feelings.

First, evaluate the situation:

  • How important is it to me?
  • Are my feelings based on rational beliefs/thoughts?
  • Is it something that can be changed?
  • What are the likely results if I speak up?
  • Is it appropriate to speak up?
  • Is it worth it for me to take action?

If you do decide to communicate your feelings, use I Statements. The five elements of an I Statement are:

  1. Observations – state the facts, describe the situation
  2. Feelings – describe your own feelings
  3. Thoughts – about the effects of the situation
  4. Wants – ask clearly for what you want
  5. Intentions – tell what you plan to do

This week, I will decide if expressing emotions is the best choice in situations that arise. If I choose to express my emotions, I will use I statements. I will print a Five Message Worksheet (pdf) and use it each day. I will practice this exercise each day with different scenarios.


This is one of the weekly activities for a Year of Personal Development.

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