Emotional awareness involves knowing how to identify your own feelings and recognize the emotions of others. Emotional intelligence increases when we gain the skills to manage our emotions and to connect with others.
5 skills to increase emotional intelligence:
- self awareness
- self regulation
- self motivation
- social skills
- empathy
Self awareness – notice what you are feeling, thinking, and doing, and identify emotions.
Self regulation – understand emotions are connected to thoughts, learn to pause and engage coping skills.
Self motivation – understand personality and motivation.
• Mastery, Autonomy, Purpose
• Observable outcomes
• Valued contributions
• Engage interest and energy
Social skills – know how to relate, communicate, and listen well.
↳ RECOGNIZE
• Listen to understand
• Empathy ↴
• Ask questions
• Respond with feedback
• Notice body language
Empathy – understand the feelings of others.
• Consideration
• Appreciation
• Respect
• Encouragement
↳ CONNECT
• Communicate
• Aim attention
• Reach out and share
• Engaging experiences
Emotional skills are part of a Year of Personal Growth:
- Identify
- Understand the connection between thoughts & feelings
- Express with I statements
- Manage anger
- Choose love
Since Daniel Goleman published the book “Emotional Intelligence” in 1995, many more resources have become available to increase these skills. His TED talk, Why aren’t we more compassionate.(Amazon affiliate links provide a small commission that helps support the Daily PlanIt at no additional cost to you with a purchase. Thank you for your support!)
TED Talks and books (more at TED Talk Book Discussion)
- Dealing With Feeling by Marc Brackett, TED talk Emotional literacy
- How Emotions are Made by Lisa Feldman Barrett, TED talk You aren’t at the mercy of your emotions
- Emotional Agility by Susan David, TED talk The gift and power of emotional courage
More videos:
- Emotions & the Brain Video (2:02)
- 12 Traits Emotionally Intelligent People Share Big Think video with Daniel Goleman
More resources:
- The Emotional Skills Toolkit from Helpguide.org is a free resource with videos, information and activities to increase your emotional skills.
- Emotional Intelligence at skillsyouneed
- Emotional Intelligence at Mindtools
- Emotional Intelligence at wind4change
- Emotional Intelligence in Leadership at Harvard Business School
- BARES Model from the University of Minnesota
- EQ Flashcards
- Emotional Intelligence Test at Psychtests.com
- EQ Tests at Psychology Today
- Quick Measure (17 questions and 10 minutes)
- In Depth Measure (106 questions and 30 minutes)
More at the Coping Skills Toolkit. Learn more about how to make Positive Shift Happen.
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