Experiment to find a solution, try different approaches.
Innovation: Focus & Reframe to generate unique solutions
Make time to focus, keep workspace uncluttered.
Look at ideas from different perspectives.
Entrepreneurship: Persist & Inspire to bring your ideas into reality
Push through the point where others stop by developing grit. Understand that challenges and mistakes are to be expected. Take steps that are the right size: neither too small nor too large.
Manifest your ideas by sharing your dream. Inspire others to join or support your cause by telling stories. Tell stories that inspire emotion and provide a clear path for action. See Kurt Vonnegut’s story shapes, the story spine and more about storytelling on Pinterest.
Tina Seelig’s TED Talk: A Crash Course in Creativity
You’re running at a good pace, listening to music with a good beat, taking deep breaths, feeling the strength and energy in your body, and it feels good. Sure, it hasn’t been easy getting to this point, but you’re here now, and you feel pride in what you have accomplished by challenging yourself. You’re in flow. Whether you reach the experience of flow through recreational activities or work, it involves becoming so absorbed in what you are doing that you lose all track of time.
Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi, one of the co-founders of Positive Psychology, wrote the book “Flow: the Psychology of Optimal Experience.” He also gave a TED Talk, “Flow, the Secret to Happiness.” He describes flow as “being completely involved in an activity for it’s own sake.” The time we spend in flow is an important component of happiness. It also indicates purpose and talents.
1. Have a clear understanding of what you want to achieve. Set goals that are challenging, yet still attainable. Learn How to Set Goals with a free tutorial, and more with my “Get Goaling” ebook.
2. Get feedback. Measure what matters and pay attention to the results.
3. Find and use your strengths. Strengths include natural talents, skills you’ve learned, and personal qualities or character strengths that are important to you. The free ebook, How to Start a Fire includes ways to identify strengths.
3. Look for the sweet spot where skill and challenge are in perfect balance. The article “Flow Makes Life Better” at success.com talks about the sweet spot and points out that it’s a moving target as skills increase.
5. Design a space to work in that provides what you need to get creative.
11. Become completely absorbed in the activity. When you lose all track of time you are on the right track.
12. Try new activities you might like and expand your comfort zone. While you might try different recreational activities, flow often comes while we are working on something. Savor the activity itself while engaged in it.
“Time = Life. Therefore, waste your time and waste your life. Or master your time and master your life.” -Alan Laekin
Time is life, and if we aren’t spending it well, we aren’t living the way we want to. You may have heard the saying “time is money,” and we all know it is valuable. Yet it is often wasted. It is all too easy to put something off until tomorrow, when we will have more time… and maybe we will. Each day 24 hours is credited to our account, and we all receive the same amount. But it can so easily slip through our fingers, a treasure stolen away by procrastination, interruptions, and indecision. We attempt to measure it with clocks and watches, but cannot save it up for another day.
We all have fixed time expenses such as working, eating and sleeping. Usually there is some discretionary time each day that we can spend as we choose. If we cut spending time on non-essentials and time wasters, it can be invested where it counts the most: on the things that are most important. A well-balanced time budget includes time for priorities in different areas of life.
Every day we make choices, and every choice has a consequence. When we say yes to one thing, we are saying no to another. There are opportunity costs: as Gary Keller says in “The One Thing”: “Extraordinary results require focused attention and time. Time on one thing means time away from another. This makes balance impossible.” This is the most important thing to remember: if we choose to waste time on low-priority distractions, we are saying no to the important things we have said that we want to do. The reality is that once those moments are gone, they are gone forever, and cannot ever be spent on anything else. There’s another chance tomorrow, but today’s opportunity is lost. That time is not in the bank. It’s been withdrawn from our time account and burned up into ash. If we continually procrastinate and waste time, time may run out before we get the important things done. Learn about strategies to get motivated and overcome procrastination.
We should take care of our time, just as we take care of our money! A good starting point is to do a time audit and learn more about using time well at Time Management 101.
If you love discussing movies and films based on books, consider joining Screen and Page for fantastic fiction with movie adaptations, and GreatReads for faboulous non-fiction books and TED talks. Learn more at Screen and Page.
Keep It Super Simple book discussion group guide
If you want a simple way to start a book discussion group, the following ideas and resources might help.
Getting Organized
Choose a topic: Fiction (new & popular? award winners? classic? mystery?) or Nonfiction (business? self-help? history?).
Select a name that reflects the topic.
For an in-person group, choose a time and place to meet, and decide on how many members (a good number is generally 8-12).
Whether in-person or online, send invitations.
At an organizational meeting, decide on guidelines, book selection, and whether to have snacks or not.
Moderator or not?
Also decide whether to have a moderator lead discussions, and if so, how they will be selected and what the duties will include. A moderator can help keep the discussion on track, and could also look for specific discussion questions or resources related to the book online. It can also work to simply take turns and use generic discussion questions like the ones below. Or everyone can write a comment or question on an index card and just select from them at random to discuss. Or you can roll dice to choose a discussion topic. (here’s an online dicer roller)
Roll a Fiction Book Discussion
Pair this with the printable Fiction discussion questions below.
Litlovers also has generic discussion questions for nonfiction, fiction, and mystery. You can enter the url of the set of question you want at www.printfriendly.com for a printable list.
Online Tools for a Reading Group
It was easy to set up a group at Goodreads. MakeUseOf has a helpful Unofficial Guide to Goodreads. Here is Screen and Page on Goodreads.
You can also set up a Facebook page for your group, and add the Goodreads app. Goodreads provides prompts when you set up your group. Here is Screen and Page on Facebook.
Example Guidelines for a Book Discussion Group in person – These are the Screen and Page guidelines.
It’s best if you read the book and watch the movie! But if you can’t manage it, come anyway.
Consider taking notes as you read the book and after watching the movie. BooksMoviesNotes (pdf)
Try to stay (mostly) on topic.
Everyone is invited to participate…One at a time please!
Opinions may vary, and all are respected.
Example Guidelines for an Online Book Discussion Group – These are the Screen and Page Rules:
We expect respect. DO be respectful & kind. NO spam, profanity, or obscene language is allowed & NO personal attacks or abuse. Any inappropriate content will be deleted and the poster blocked.
We expect opinions will vary. Consider explaining how the work made you feel and supporting your views by mentioning a scene from the movie or a passage from the book. Please mark *spoilers* with astericks.
Meeting Agendas
Greetings – a few minutes for welcomes, introductions, icebreakers if desired. Update the contact list if one is maintained.
Idea List for Future Reads – review, add suggestions, and vote for next month’s read.
Moderator – choose for next month if you use one. (draw straws?)
Discussion – reminder of guidelines
Conclusion – Thanks for joining!
Book Selection
Add suggestions to a list of ideas for future books to read. Promising titles for interesting discussions have…
Characters that are amazing.
Original or unique approach.
Themes that are complex.
Emotions or thoughts inspired.
List Options: Listopia at Goodreads, maybe Litsy. For Screen and Page I’m creating a shareable spreadsheet in Google Drive. A feature of Goodreads is a way to take a poll of Goodreads group members to vote on future reads. Consider having the next two books selected, so people have plenty of time to read the selections.
The social aspect of our lives is undeniably important for our well-being and happiness. People who have strong connections with others report higher levels of happiness. Relationships can also be challenging at times, and can be a source of unhappiness if we don’t know much about them.
Levels of Relationships
Relationships move through several stages or levels, ranging from casual acquaintances to close intimate relationships. When we first meet someone, we exchange information and learn more about each other. Some relationships don’t progress any further. We might not ever see the person again, or they may be a casual acquaintance. Others move through the levels as a relationship grows. Sharing information about yourself is called self-disclosure, and knowing what to share and when is an important relationship skill to develop.
Level One includes casual acquaintances: classmates, group members, neighbors. At this level, we share our public self: observable general knowledge. We may make small talk about the weather, our jobs, sports, etc.
Level Two -Friends & Family: co-workers, cousins, aunts & uncles, nephews & nieces. We share the personal self: opinions, beliefs, and might discuss events and news.
Level Three -Close Friends, Immediate Family. We share the private self: ideas and problems, and might ask for advice or share what’s going on in your life.
Level Four -Intimate Relationships: a spouse or partner, best friends. We share the intimate self: reactions, thoughts & feelings, needs & wants. Explore deeper questions about goals, challenges, emotions.
Cultivating Relationships – Plant a garden
For a relationship to grow, it must be cultivated and tended to carefully. To cultivate a relationship, plant seeds of conversation with kindness, and attention. Sprinkle them with shared experiences and time. Fertilize them with caring and thoughtfulness, and add plenty of the sunshine of laughter. Pull out weeds of conflict that can strangle healthy flowers with lots of good communication. The closer the relationship, the more time and attention is needed to maintain the closeness.
How to Make a Friend
• Find groups to join to meet others with similar interests.
• Reach out with a smile and conversation.
•Invite others to join you in activities that you enjoy.
• Express caring and kindness. Call, email, send cards and gifts on special occasions.
• Notice, remember, and use their name.
• Develop into the kind of person you would like to have as a friend.
• Spend time together. Share interesting ideas and thoughts.
GREAT Skills are a) in demand in the workplace b) rarely taught, and c) very helpful in all areas of life! The GREAT Skills Trading Cards provide key information from experts for learning these skills. The links below lead to more resources. This set on Relationships includes:
For any type of goal, decide when and where you will do it. Choose the best time to work on it, and organize all the resources you will need. Do you need to buy a workout dvd, workout clothes, a set of weights, a gym membership?
To change a habit, first identify the cue, the routine, and the reward, then change the routine. (from Charles Duhrigg, author of “The Power of Habits”) If you reach for potato chips while watching television, keep gum by the couch and/or put an exercise bike nearby.
Know that willpower is 1) a limited resource, and 2) can be strengthened. (from Roy Baumeister, author of “Willpower.”) See if you can resist an impulse a little longer each time, or try meditation to strengthen willpower. Plan what you will you do when willpower is low. Distract yourself, and reduce or eliminate temptations if possible. Don’t watch commercials. Can you put potato chips out of sight and high out of reach? Or don’t buy them at all?
Make change as easy as possible. Shawn Achor’s 20 second rule says that if you can make a positive habit 3 to 20 seconds easier to start, your likelihood of doing it increases dramatically. Take small steps. B J Fogg advocates Tiny Habits in his TED Talk, “Forget big change, Start with a Tiny Habit, and has created a helpful tool called the Behavior Wizard.Can you make a positive habit easier to do, or a negative habit harder to do? What is one small step in the right direction that you can take?
Tip the scales by stacking the deck. On one side of the scale are all the reasons you don’t want to do something: excuses, the time cost, etc. On the other side are all the reasons you do want to do something: the benefits, rewards, etc. You aren’t going to invest your resources in something that doesn’t provide enough value to offset the price. We’ve got to stack the deck in favor of motivation with plenty of benefits to outweigh the costs and tip the scales.
Have a plan B, a back-up plan in case you encounter obstacles. Music is essential to my workout, so I keep extra earbuds in the glove compartment in case I forget to bring them. If you are trying to quit smoking, can you substitute something else like gum instead of cigarettes?
Track it. We tend to under-estimate how many high calorie snacks we eat, and how much time we waste on social media or other things. Tracking it can provide an eye-opening surprise.
Create competition. Aim to increase how much weight you can lift, or plan to compete in a marathon.
Set a goal and make it SMART: Specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-bound.
It’s hard to maintain motivation when the results you seek are far in the future. Break large goals into smaller steps, with small rewards for reaching each target.
Make failure painful…put money on the line and lose it if you fail.
Add accountability…report progress (or lack of it) to others. Social pressure can be effective.
Add sweet to the bitter. Add a positive experience to sweeten one that is unappetizing. Choose something that won’t undermine the results you want. Instead of eating cupcakes while exercising, try watching a show that you enjoy and look forward to seeing.
Use negative pairing. Reduce temptations by imagining something negative connected with them.
Make progress visual. Choose a habit tracker app, use a Seinfeld chart, or simply mark a calendar. Expect that habits take an average of 66 days to achieve.
Visualize success. Imagine your future self, and how good you will look and feel when you exercise, quit smoking, or whatever. You might want to make a vision board.
Choose a growth mindset, a belief that abilities can be developed. (from Carol Dweck, author of “Mindset”)
Get inspired. Read books or articles, watch movies or videos, listen to music that you find inspirational. Just don’t do it all day.
Find meaning. Remind yourself why you want to accomplish it. (from Simon Sinek, author of “Start With Why”)
Connect with passion. If you can connect a task with something you are passionate about, you gain intrinsic motivation. When it comes to creating habits this may be challenging.
Take action…begin, even if you don’t really want to.
Run a “Dash”…commit to only five minutes and you might just keep going.
Find flow, the sweet spot where challenge and skill are perfectly in balance and you lose all track of time.
KEEP GOING
Reduce distractions. If focus is needed, turn off notifications and use headphones.
Clear thoughts. Write down thoughts that are distracting you from what you need to do.
Take a break and recharge. Notice when your energy is low, and recharge with activities that will truly revive you.
Create a habit and use the power of a routine. Simplify life and engage auto-pilot for routine tasks to reserve your energy for tasks that require willpower and brain-power!
Celebrate progress!!! Check in regularly to look over results and congratulate yourself.
If all else fails
Procrastinate productively. If you’re not going to do what you planned, at least accomplish something else that needs to be done!
GREAT Skills are a) in demand in the workplace b) rarely taught, and c) very helpful in all areas of life! The GREAT Skills Trading Cards provide key information from experts for learning these skills. The links below lead to posts at The Daily PlanIt with more resources. This set on emotions, meditation & goals, is available for download at Slideshare.
GREAT Skills are a) in demand in the workplace b) rarely taught, and c) very helpful in all areas of life! The GREAT Skills Trading Cards provide key information from experts for learning these skills. The links below lead to posts at The Daily PlanIt with more resources. This set of Trading Cards is about Positive Psychology.