What I Have Learned About Love from the Movies

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Something’s Gotta Give is one of my favorite romantic comedies. I’ve watched it many times and know almost all the lines by heart. Diane Keaton somehow makes having a broken heart funny in her crying scene. One of the lessons of the movie is this: the heart wants what the heart wants. But the lines below are among the most powerful.

Marin: Are you crying?

Erica Barry: Yeah. It’s my new thing. I’ve gotten abnormally brilliant at it.

Marin: Why? What is it?

Erica Barry: I’m in love. Ain’t it great? Seems like I gotta learn how to that… love-them-and-leave-them stuff, you know?

Marin: Oh mom, I hate this. Now do you get my theory about all this? You gotta self-protect.

Erica Barry: You don’t really buy this stuff you say, do you? You don’t actually think that you can outsmart getting hurt?

Marin: I think it’s worth trying.

Erica Barry: Listen to me. You can’t hide from love for the rest of your life because maybe it won’t work out… maybe you’ll become unglued? It’s just not a way to live.

Marin: Are you telling me this is good? What’s happened to you?

Erica Barry: I think you should consider the possibility that you and I are more alike than you realize. I let someone in, and I had the time of my life.

Marin: I’ve never had the time of my life.

Erica Barry: I know, baby. And I say this from the deepest part of my heart. What are you waiting for?

The lesson: In romance, you have to take a risk. Yes, there may be pain. But if you see a chance, take it. Here’s a few more things I’ve learned about love from the movies:

“Love is a gift, Alex, not an obligation.” –Fools Rush In

“You are what you love, not what loves you.” –Adaptation

“The greatest thing you’ll ever know, is just to love, and be loved in return.” –Moulin Rouge

A few more:

And Samantha in the television show Sex and the City:

“I love you, but I love me more.”

What have you learned about love at the movies? Let us know at the Daily PlanIt Facebook page!

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Time Perspective and Happiness

In my search for videos to learn more about productivity, I came across this short TED Talk by Philip Zimbardo called “The Psychology of Time.” Philip Zimbardo is the author of the book The Time Paradox, and founder of the Heroic Imagination Project.

An animated version of the Secret Powers of Time at the RSA

And a longer version at the RSA

The Positive Present and the ability to shift

As the above graphic from “Time Perspective” shows, Zimbardo describes the Present time perspective as Hedonism or Fatalism. But when I apply the ideas of time perspective to the Happiness Habits identified by Positive Psychology, the majority have a primary focus on the present, in a positive way.

Primarily Present Happiness Habits:

  • Breathing
  • Meditation
  • In Flow
  • Share
  • Uplift
  • Noticing

Primarily Future: Aspire

Both Present and Future: Exercise. (We exercise in the present, often with a goal for the future.)

Both Present and Past: Gratitude

A mixture of Present, Past, and Future:

  • Emotional awareness
  • Relating

Tal Ben Shahar’s model of happiness describes four different states of mind related to time perspectives. These four states correspond with those (in parentheses) described by Vishen Lakhiani in his book, “The Code of the Extraordinary Mind.”

The ability to delay gratification and shift our attention between the different time perspectives has a big impact on happiness and success. An article about the effects of time perspectives on goal attainment at the National Library of Medicine. What do you think? Let us know at the Daily PlanIt Facebook page.

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How I use Google Drive for Lists

Lists are an important part of any time management system. Some people enjoy using paper planners or notebooks. For an electronic system, there are different options available for lists: and Evernote is very popular. The Keep It Super Simple System has a combination of Google Tasks and the app Tasks & To-do for Google Tasks. I now simply use Google Keep for many of my lists that frequently change, and use Google Drive for lists that don’t change as much.

Lists to add to a system:

To do Today – Keep it simple! So you may also want lists for: To do next, later, tomorrow, this week, or this month

Repeating or recurring tasks

Ideas – capture them!

Getting Things Done (GTD) lists: next actions, projects, waiting for, and someday/maybe. (I prefer different terminology)

• Get a Planner Checklist

• Establish a Daily Routine

• Review checklist for a Weekly Review

The following illustrations show how I organize folders and documents for the lists I keep in Google Drive.

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I also have a folder with lists to capture Ideas. Your core value statement: mission statement or Unique Selling Proposition, is the central point from which goals, projects, and actions flow.

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I find it really helps to have this where I can always review it.

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This is what my Goal Master List looks like:

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And here is my Project Master List:

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Some lists for Today:

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Some lists for Planning:

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Google Drive is simple to set up, flexible and easy to use. You can create links and include photos, spreadsheets, and there are probably more options beyond what I’ve discovered. I think it’s a great way to keep the lists you need. Learn more about The Daily PlanIt Keep It Super Simple (K.I.S.S.) System for Productivity.

How do you manage lists? Let us know on our Facebook page. See more about how I manage my system and workspace.

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Learn About Productivity

Productivity is a key skill that employers look for, but that is not often taught. The books and videos below are great resources to learn about productivity. Amazon affiliate links to books provide a small commission that helps support the Daily PlanIt.

 Videos

Two great very short videos from Epipheo to get started.

In just under 10 minutes, the Penguin Prof condenses Randy Pausch’s longer lecture below that is aimed at college students but has helpful information for everyone.

Randy Pausch’s Lecture on Time Management is almost an hour and a half, time well spent.

TED Talks

David Allen TED Talk Art of Stress Free Productivity (Author of Getting Things Done)

The Way We’re Working Isn’t Working” by Tony Schwartz, TED talk

Making Ideas Happen” by Scott Belsky, TED Talk

Chris Bailey, author of “The Productivity Project,” talks about a more human approach to productivity.

See more TED talks about productivity and goals by speakers who are also authors at the Aspire Pinterest pathway.

A video series from Michael Sliwinski, founder of Nozbe, an app with a monthly fee after 30 days.

Brendan Burchard, author of “The Charge.” outlines how to use his one page productivity planner available at http://www.thechargebook.com/resources-downloads

A few more to check out at makeuseof.

The Daily PlanIt Productivity Youtube Playlist.

Learn more:

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Daily Routine Checklist With Prayers and Quotes for the Day

We all need a schedule that fits our unique life: everyone has their own preferences and tasks to perform. Some prefer to exercise, shower or bathe in the morning, others in the evening. Checklists can help us remember everything that needs to be done. I recently powered up my daily routine with some favorite prayers and quotes for inspiration, various exercises scattered throughout the day, and music that fits that part of my day. Finding ways to add gratitude, meditation, and deep breathing on a daily basis helps to manage stress and increase happiness. I keep a copy in Google Drive so I can easily review it. These are some of my favorite prayers and quotes (pdf) for a daily routine checklist (pdf)

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Wake Up!

Positive quotes:

  • “Every day is a gift, that’s why they call it the present.”
  • “What we are is God’s gift to us, What we become is our gift to God.” -Eleanor Powell
  • A grateful heart a garden is…plant seeds of gratitude, kindness & inspiration today.

Affirmations: “I will choose a positive attitude and thinking today. I will choose a growth mindset, and view problems as challenges. I will bravely be my authentic self and stretch beyond my comfort zone. I will project both strength and warmth. I will listen with attention and communicate with care. I will use my talents for a meaningful purpose. I will create meaningful memories with those I care about.

My morning prayer: “Thank You, God, for the opportunities of this new day. Grant me kindness and compassion for others, patience when dealing with any difficulties, strength to handle problems. Help me to grow and to be my best self.”

Listen to motivational or inspirational music

Morning Light Prayer

“For this new morning with its light, For rest and shelter of the night, For health and food, for love and friends. For everything Thy goodness sends, Thank you, God.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

  • Review value statement and vision board with photos of strengths

Morning

“Do more than belong: participate. Do more than care: help. Do more than believe: practice. Do more than be fair: be kind. Do more than forgive: forget. Do more than dream: work.” -William Arthur Ward

  • Get to work! I find listening to nature sounds or classical music that activates Alpha brain waves really helps me to access flow and maintain focus.
  • Listening to workout music while exercising makes it easier. [30 minutes of aerobic on the elliptical machine is vital to keep me feeling good, and 10:30 am works best for me]

Noon

You are the one [fellow] that has to decide
Whether you’ll do it, or toss it aside.
You are the one [fellow] who makes up your mind,
Whether you’ll try for the goal that’s afar
Or be contented to stay where you are.
Take it or leave it. Here’s something to do!
Just think it over. It’s all up to you.

-Edgar Guest

Afternoon

Be a torch or be a spark.

Be a candle in the dark.

Be a sunbeam or a star.

Be the shining light you are.

Evening

Have You Earned Your Tomorrow by Edgar Guest

 

Is anybody happier because you passed his way? Does anyone remember that you spoke to him today? This day that’s almost over, did you use its moments well or will the angel’s record a tale of trouble tell? Did you waste the day, or save it? Was it well, or poorly spent? Did you leave a trail of kindness, or a scar of discontent? As you close your eyes in slumber, do you hear the angel say, “You have earned one more tomorrow by the way you lived today”?

  • Create meaningful memories with good conversation during a family meal.
  • Lift weights and do posture exercises when watching tv [neck strengthening exercises are crucial to keep me feeling good, and a short simple weight lifting routine with dumbbells is another goal]

My evening prayer: “Thank you, God, for the gift of this day. Thank you for your loving care, and for always being by my side.”

Two prayers and a song I find comforting: What God Hath Promised (see below), a Child’s Evening Hymn, and The Prayer sung by Josh Groban and Charlotte Church.

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See more details about my daily routine, and how to Run Your Day Like an Athlete.

 

 

 

 

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Benefits of 11 Happiness Habits in Infographics

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Learn how to follow the BE MEASURING building blocks of positive shift with resources at the Positive Shift Happens Toolkit. To see the benefits, just click on each of the images below to see the full infographic.

Breathe Deeply

BreatheBenefits

Exercise

ExerciseBenefitsMeditation

MeditationBenefitsEmotional Awareness

EQBenefits

Aspire

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Research on goals and happiness @actionforhappiness.org

 

Sharing

SharingBenefits

Uplift

MusicBenefits

Relate

ConnectionBenefits

In Flow

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Notice

NoticeBenefits

Gratitude

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research on benefits of gratitude at templeton.org

See these infographics and more on my Pinterest Happiness Habits board.

See also Apps for Happiness and Personal Development

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A Time to BE MEASURING

Learn how to follow the BE MEASURING building blocks of positive shift with resources at the Positive Shift Happens Toolkit. See the Benefits of 11 Happiness Habits in Infographics.

I made myself a visual reminder for the BE MEASURING happiness habits:
BeMeasuringPhotosHappiness Habits:

  • Breathe Deeply
  • Exercise
  • Meditate
  • Emotionally Aware
  • Aspire
  • Share
  • Uplift
  • Relate
  • In Flow
  • Notice
  • Gratitude

I printed these photos, cut them out and glued them to tags. I’d like to clip them to a yardstick, but haven’t found one!
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Here is a free download of the BE MEASURING happiness habits reminders (pdf)

Happy New Year!

Thinking about this reminds me that in happiness and life, to everything there is a season.

There is a time for doing and a time for being,

A time for thinking and a time for feeling,

A time for working and a time for playing,

A time for introspection and a time for connection,

A time for planning and a time for action,

A time for hanging in and a time for letting go.

Awareness is key to knowing when it is time to shift.

Read more about Apps for Happiness and Personal Development and Happiness Based on Science and Positive Psychology.

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Top 10 Posts of 2014

Here are the top 10 posts of the year at The Daily PlanIt in 2014:

Title
Free Tools
Home page / Archives
Identify Emotions
Apps for Happiness and Personal Development
A paper planner tool for the weekly review
Top Ten Personal Development Sites
The portable gtd mini system
GTD Essentials
Combating Procrastination
Run Your Day Like an Athlete

Interest in the free tools posted here is always high. The identify emotions post is not new, but remains a popular topic, while interest in productivity continues to be high.

Overlap

One thing I’ve learned this year is about the overlap between:

  1. happiness habits,
  2. personal development (of which productivity is a part) and
  3. skills for success.

An overlap in all 3 subjects occurs in the areas of Social, Relationships, and Mental. Many of the top 10 skills employers are looking for are mental, but the top 2 are Communication and Teamwork. Sharing is a key happiness habit in the social area, and communication is important in all relationships.

More overlap occurs in the happiness habits and personal development. Breathing and exercise in the physical area, meditation and gratitude in the spiritual area, and emotional awareness in both. I believe these skills are also helpful for career success.

It’s pretty easy to sell people on the benefits of happiness! When you start with the happiness habits you will also be developing personally and developing work and career skills. Add in more personal development and you will gain still more work and career skills. This overlap indicates that increasing skills in communication, goal setting and productivity provide a high return on investment of time spent on developing them.

Resources from The Daily PlanIt to learn these key skills are:

CommunicationCommunicate Well, and Skills Employers Want: #1 Communication

Goal SettingHow to Set Goals tutorial, the How to Start a Fire free eBook on discovering what you are passionate about,  “On Purpose” course at Udemy, and my “Get Goaling” ebook.

ProductivityTime Management 101 tutorial

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12 Ways to Give

Create a calendar for planning to give on monthly themes.

Sharing and Gratitude are both part of the BE MEASURING building blocks of positive shift. To make your own planned giving calendar, here’s some things to consider:

  1. Decide on the amount you wish to give.
  2. Choose causes that are important to you.
  3. Look them up at www.charitynavigator.org/. You can register to make it easy to give online and keep track of donations for tax purposes.
  4. Think of some simple gifts you can give to thank someone each month.
  5. Start a file for your giving plan, favorite recipes, thank you cards, etc.

Simple gift ideas: a candle, a book, a music CD, wrapped chocolates, flowers, variety pack of tea paired with shortbread or butter cookies, J Skinner cinnamon rolls, muffins, a gift card. See ideas for Appreciation Gifts at the Joy of Giving and Pinterest. Send an e-card from gratefulness.org.

Download a free printable 12 Ways to Give pdf form to create a plan. Below is an example plan.

Ideas? Let us know at the Daily PlanIt Facebook page!

See also a free printable Random Acts of Kindness bookmark for ideas. Discover how to volunteer your talents to an organization that supports a cause that is meaningful to you.

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Apps for Happiness and Personal Development

BE MEASURING with the building blocks of positive shift to add happiness. (see links to resources at the Positive Shift Happens Toolkit) As I reviewed various frameworks for happiness, I realized that the practices that have been shown to increase happiness and well-being can be arranged to spell out BE MEASURING. Ironically, it is not usually important to measure them.

Systems that are simple and easy to use are usually best, and often a printable paper option will fill the bill. While it is important to measure what you want to manage, tracking a whole bunch of things can become tedious. However, if you enjoy using apps, many are gathered here that may be useful. As I’ve thought about ways to add more of these key skills into my life, I realized: 1) a simple checklist is probably pretty effective, 2) many of the keys to happiness are activities for personal development, and 3) it would sure be nice to have all of this incorporated into one Android app.

When I first wrote the Year of Personal Development series my focus was on free printable tools, but now many apps have been created that could be helpful tools to add happiness habits (and personal development) to your routine. I’ve been seeing a lot about the Happify app, which uses a S.T.A.G.E. framework to build five key happiness skills. Action for Happiness has an app as well.

Habit Trackers: I have used Loop Habit Tracker for Android. (Apple people might like Strides for ios.) See more habit tracker options at Make Good Habits Easy, and Bad Habits Hard.

The BE MEASURING building blocks:

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Breathe Deeply (& sleep well)Breathing deeply is a habit with many benefits. It was one of the most helpful things I did during a Year of Personal Development. It is helpful to remember to stretch and take several deep breaths about once every hour. (time: about 5 minutes)

  • Apps: Apps at health.mil for military veterans are available free for anyone. T2 at Google Play. Breath2Relax includes a demonstration, stress rating, and cycles for deep breathing. There is also a very simple instructional app to learn how to breath deeply called the Tactical Breather App. They also have a mood tracker (see below) and some others I’d like to try out like the Virtual Hope Box. GPS for the Soul is an app from the Huffington Post that is now available on Android as well as iOS. The Living Well app is designed for men who have been sexually abused in childhood, which includes breathing and mindfulness meditations. For reminders, I simply use Google Keep. If you have problems with sleeping, White Noise Lite looks good.

Exercise (& eat a healthy diet)-Just a few minutes of exercise a day can release endorphins, but you can gain additional benefits with a longer workout. If you can spend some time outside, that is a mood booster too. See the benefits of exercise infographic from Happify. (time: about 30 minutes)

  • Apps: Myfitnesspal is wonderful for tracking your diet and exercise, although I find it a bit tiresome entering all that information. See also Best Fitness and Exercise Apps at Healthline.
  • Samsung Food is the app I currently use for managing recipes and menu planning. It does take a bit of time and effort. If I need inspiration, I usually just flip through index cards with a picture of the main dishes we mostly have.

Meditate (& relax)-There are many benefits to meditation. (time: about 15 minutes)

  • Apps: Take a Break from Stress with the app from Meditation Oasis. Choose between a 7 minute break and a longer 13 minute option. I sometimes use this app during my noon break. Relax Melodies is great (and fun!) for creating a variety of gentle sounds. See also Best Meditation Apps at Healthline.

Emotional awareness-Empathize with others, and notice your own emotions.

  • Apps: T2health has a  mood tracker which was designed to treat PTSD. You could get a baseline by tracking for a week, then introduce some habits proven to increase happiness to see how your mood is influenced. Benefits of emotional intelligence.

Aspire-Know your purpose and direction, and take action toward meaningful goals. (time: at least 5 minutes a day)

  • Apps:  Chaos Control, which is a GTD Task List that includes defining your goals. In my system, I include steps toward projects in my to-do lists and keep lists of goals and projects in Google Drive. Some possibilities use a stick rather than a carrot as incentive.

Share-Give to causes you believe in by volunteering or financially. Perform random acts of kindness. (time: about 2 minutes)

Uplift-yourself with positive music and thoughts, and others with compliments and kind words. Benefits of music infographic.

Relate-Spend time with people you care about, do nice things for them, interact with others.

Increase FlowUse the talents that cause you to lose track of time.

Notice-Look up, be aware and mindful, pay attention, smell the roses, enjoy tastes, savor and appreciate life, etc. Plan activities and anticipate them, remember good times. Benefits of mindfulness and appreciation. How to: 10 Steps to Savoring at Greater Good.

Gratitude-start the day with appreciation, and end it by thinking of a few things you’re thankful for. In between, thank those you are grateful for. (time: a few minutes) Here are the benefits of Gratitude.

Time to cultivate these happy habits

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(with thanks to http://mytherapypage.wordpress.com/2012/07/25/5-happy-habits-an-hour-a-day/)

Happiness Habits add up to about an hour a day

See also Benefits of 11 Happiness Habits in Infographics

Links to more apps:

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